This page was updated on Saturday, July 19, 2008 .   Web  HN   HOME News & Web Abortion Alimony Child Custody Child Support Contraception Divorce False Accusations Family Breakdown Fathers' Rights Gay Marriage Gay Rights Internet Dating Joint Custody Mail-Order Brides Marriage Men's Rights Parental Alienation Syndrome Parents' Rights Paternity Fraud Paternity Testing PMS Polygamy Health Issues AIDS Aphrodisiacs Baldness Circumcision Depression Dietary Supplements Menopause Men's Health Obesity Prostate STDs Testicular Testosterone Viagra Vitamins	Latest ... Asexuality One of the challenges asexuals face is convincing the rest of the sex-crazed world that they really aren't interested. Laine Bergeson  Rod Stewart's Divorce Likely To Cost Arm And Leg Rocker Rod Stewart risks losing a massive portion of his fortune to his furious estranged wife Rachel Hunter in their divorce settlement.  Divorce Can Ruin Your Lifestyle The hard truth about divorce is that there's unlikely to be enough money to keep both parties in the lifestyles to which they've become accustomed. Divorce Hurts A 28-year-old woman who worked in Borehamwood was murdered by her husband to avoid a ruinous and bitter divorce, the Old Bailey heard yesterday. ... The jury also heard that the husband was saddled with massive debts and feared she would take away his children if they separated. Training Your Girlfriend Before you know it, she'll have you on her leash, following her around like a puppy dog, eagerly awaiting her next command and lapping up the few sexual kibbles she tosses at you to keep you at "heel." Matthew Fitzgerald  Natural Sex? In debates about sexuality, ‘nature’ is invariably brought into the discussion, and usually all the participants involved will try to claim that nature supports their position. Why? What if nature isn’t our best guide at all? We live most of our lives in a constant process of negating the base realities of nature, yet when it comes to sex we suddenly think nature has all the answers. This is illogical and regressive. We should no longer look to nature for answers about human sexuality; in fact, it should have no say on the matter at all. Edmund Standing - 7 min  UK Hussies More than one in four women between the ages of 30 and 59 claims to have had an affair, according to a new study of middle-class women’s sexual secrets.  Female Orgasm Dependent On Genes A woman's ability to reach orgasm is partly due to her genes.  Self Love A few years ago, psychologists discovered that the faces to which we were most attracted were those that resembled our own. ... a new study finds, rather unromantically, that exactly the same process which leads to us be drawn to our lovers seems to explain how we choose our dogs . Stepford Husband About four years ago my wife, a barrister, was offered a well-paid job working for a firm of West Country solicitors. The catch was that the office was an hour and a half away by car. Still, I work from home, so there’d be no trouble about the childcare. Roland White  A Sense Of Humour Means Different Things To Men And Women That sought-after trait in a mate -- "good sense of humour" -- is more complex than originally thought. In fact, men and women define it differently.  Girl Power The primary concern, says Laura Schlessinger, is that when women are sexually aggressive, they end up less liberated and more oppressed -- the opposite of feminism's goal.  How To Get Laid I bet I'm not the only one whose relationship didn't survive the break. Normally, my inflamed sense of rejection and my rather vicious vengeful streak would get together to exact some terrible retribution on the offending male. But sometimes, you don't need to scream and throw things and burn his favorite t-shirt or smear his car with mayonnaise and pink glitter. Sometimes, it's just time to move on. Heather Grantham  Divorce Parties Guests at divorce parties, which are usually held by women, can expect a racy night. There is rarely any sobbing into champagne.  No Orgasmatron. No Climax "For a few weeks my sensations were heightened a little, but now our sex life is back to how it was before. A climax is impossible without the Orgasmatron.”  Avoid Single Mothers If men knew more about family law, they'd run screaming from single mothers prowling for relationships and father figures for their children. Mindelle Jacobs  Good Girls Bad Girls As men, we're instantly aroused by the Pamela Andersons of the world, but inside we know we could never tame -- much less trust -- a female like this. Instinctively we seek out more normal, down-to-earth women when we're thinking of marriage and children. Matthew Fitzgerald  Eight Reasons To Stay Single You're single -- a heat-seeking bachelor, committed to no one in particular, able to party like John Belushi and sleep until noon with no one underfoot to tell you to do otherwise. It's a great life, and why shouldn't it be? Matthew Fitzgerald  Men Seek High-Earning Women It wasn't until her engagement party that Genine Drozd realized her fiance was a little too interested in her paycheck. Sue Shellenbarger  Cybersex I've been showered with long, thoughtful e-mails about the decline of good cybersex. Regina Lynn  Cybersex What's so alluring about p0rn, or cybersex, that we cling to it in such massive numbers? Or is this just an obsession with the novelty of virtual sex, a rash of "addiction" that will wear itself out in the next few years? Regina Lynn  Women Need A Good Stroke Scientists have discovered that caressing a woman in a non-sexual way can lower her blood pressure as much as a dose of prescription drugs. ... The finding, however, only holds true for women. As for men, they might as well chill out on the sofa. Stroking has no perceptible effect on their blood pressure.  Being An Alpha Male "Alpha males - that tiny percentage of guys who know what's up with women - act a certain way, and you can learn how to be an Alpha Male," says Tim.  The Self Love Society Within a decade or so, you will be able to modify your body almost totally, as you wish. You will be able to turn off all physical signs of gender, switch off the hormones and get rid of all secondary sexual characteristics. Ziauddin Sardar  Men Like Subordinate Women "These findings provide empirical support for the widespread belief that powerful women are at a disadvantage in the marriage market because men may prefer to marry less accomplished women."  Commitment For many guys, the very thought of making a commitment to one woman for the rest of their lives is enough to send them sprinting for the hills. Matthew Fitzgerald  Equal Parenting The bond between biological parents and their children is the strongest of all human bonds -- even marriage -- and it must now be treated this way by our family courts. The first step is to change the law by passing the new shared parenting bill supported by the Fatherhood Coalition. Mark Charalambous  Who Rules The Roost? “The man is the head of the house, but the woman is the neck. And it’s the neck that turns the head.” Carey Roberts  Battered Husbands An overwhelming number of battered husbands have swamped Britain's only refuge for abused men. Now a former victim is opening the second centre today with more to follow across the country Contrasexuals A new breed of hedonistic, thrill-seeking women are shunning men and families for the good things in life.  Same-Sex Marriage “Same sex” marriage refers to the vastly larger idea that any two human beings should be able to set up a legal union bearing all the protections of marriage, regardless of the sexual orientation of the individuals. David Usher  Multiple Dating Let's face it: Men like new and different. It's just the way we're made. Matthew Fitzgerald  No Alcohol Without Wife's Permission Men in part of India could face up to three years in jail if they are caught drinking without written permission from their wives.  Best Ever Chat-Up Line A panel of Japanese experts has come up with eight simple words that could defuse the country’s infamous demographic time bomb. ...  it is, according to hours of meticulous psychological and sociological research, the ultimate chat-up line.  130 Wives Not Enough Ancentus “Danger” Akuku, 86, claims to be the most-married man in Kenya. Since 1940 he has taken 130 wives.  Dinner On The Table It is not just Bob Geldof who appreciates the dinner waiting on the table for him; women themselves record the highest rates of satisfaction where such traditional roles are maintained. Melanie Phillips  Women Deserve Beatings? More than a third of Turkish women believe they deserve being beaten if they argue with their husbands, deny them sex or burn the meal.  Women Force Men To Lie Women force men to lie. The majority of women out there won't even bother to have a conversation with a man unless he has the right job, owns a house in a geographically-desirable area, and earns a large salary. Matthew Fitzgerald  Hook-Ups Modern mating without dating is changing sexual behaviour in America. From teenagers to adults, hooking up has become part of the vocabulary of sex. Encompassing a range of conduct — from heavy petting to oral sex and intercourse — it is becoming standard practice in schools, on campuses and among adults, with damaging consequences to self-esteem, according to new research. Sarah Baxter  Is She Interested In You? Here are a few signs that she probably wants you to ask her out. Matthew Fitzgerald  The Importance Of A Sexy Voice People with attractive voices are likely to be more sexually adventurous.  Male Suicides The Israeli media abounds with stories of violent husbands beating, maiming and even murdering their wives. But rarely do local journalists point out that men can also be the victims of injustice. Daniel Ben-Tal  Moaning Minnies That sweet little girl you were dating seems like a charade and she's exhibiting some nasty negative traits, which you're not quite sure how to deal with. Matthew Fitzgerald  Advice To Women The fact that men smile nervously at you and sidle away quietly at the first opportunity does not mean that they are intimidated by you. It is also possible that they have simply concluded you are a lunatic. Vox Day  The Contrast Effect My exposure to extreme beauty is ruining my capacity to love the ordinarily beautiful women of the real world, women who are more likely to meet my needs for deep connection and partnership of the soul. 7 min  Women To Avoid Part I I used to cling to any woman who even so much as looked my way, until I figured out that most of them were more grief and trouble than they were worth. 4 min + Women To Avoid Part II 25 min   Ruined Marriage If I fight it out to see my kids again and get my money back, I spend so much time in court that I can't earn a living in the meantime. And I do it alone...because you can't make a lawyer represent your case, no matter how much money you throw at them. Michael Capanzzi  Only Losers Get Married The Ray Parlour case is yet another reason why marriage is all loss and no gain for modern males. Will Jory  Keeping Her Interested Okay, so you've finally found a woman who really gets your juices flowing, and you've already done the nasty, but now you're worried about screwing the whole thing up. Matthew Fitzgerald  Marriage Strike 22% of the men said they had absolutely no interest in finding their Truly Beloved. Carey Roberts  Greedy Diana A billionaire American bachelor was pursued by Diana, Princess of Wales, who was lured by his wealth, according to claims in a magazine.  Young Female Attitudes Toward Sex My sex life is (mostly)... Intense. 23% Romantic. 17% Experimental. 14% Unfulfilling. 46%  Dating: Women's Mind Games The typical guy is usually clueless about the mind games women play. But play them they will, so you'd better be aware of what's going on. Matthew Fitzgerald  Divorce Worse For Men Overall, men are four times more likely to kill themselves than women. The risk is even more acute among divorced fathers. Carey Roberts  High Divorce Rate In Russia 80 percent of marriages in Russia end up in divorce ... there were 36 million children in Russia in 1989, currently we have only 26.3 million children.  Unhappiness Increases The number of people in their early 30s who report feeling symptoms of depression and anxiety has doubled in just over a decade, from one in 14 in the late 1980s to one in seven today.  Dating: Women Are The Real Hunters Women always orchestrate relationships. Yet men are still out there thinking they're in control, chasing blindly after women, paying for their attention, and acting like desperate puppy dogs -- even though it gets them nowhere. Matthew Fitzgerald  Different Forms Of Love Dr Andreas Bartels and Prof Semir Zeki have attempted to unravel for the first time whether the love between a parent and a child is the same as the emotion shared by lovers and whether all forms of intense attachments are basic variations on the same theme. Raj Persaud Check For Feminist-Induced Narcissism If you’re looking for a litmus test for a prospective wife there’s none better than that of the tweaking of the modern female ego. All you need do is utter words such as “You do that very well . . . for a girl” with a twinkle in your eye and a boyish smirk on your face, and observe what ensues. Selwyn Duke - 3 min  The Feminist Con Feminism was good at teaching women how to pump their fists, guzzle water bottles on street corners, ridicule men a la The View, shriek about self-esteem and blame others for their own shortcomings and difficulties. But it did not teach them to "know thyself," which is the primary requisite for happiness. Carol Iannone - good read!   Finding A Good Woman Finding a good woman these days isn't always easy, especially in an era when the female gender is typically self-centered and "empowered" to sex-ploit the male population. Still, there are a lot of good women out there, even though it's not always easy to find them. Matthew Fitzgerald   Polyamory Some within the leadership of the polyamory movement, many of whom identify as bisexual, favor making civil marriage open to three or more people. Warren Throckmorton Out-Of-Wedlock Births Increase The number of babies in the UK born out of wedlock rises to 41 per cent. Women! "Nature intended women to be our slaves. They are our property." Napolean Bonaparte - and other quotes from NoMarriage.com Russian Brides Anna, a 35-year-old divorcee and mother of two living in the Siberian city of Irkutsk, spends her days surfing the Internet, looking for the man of her dreams - and he is not Russian. “I have more than a hundred virtual contacts, from Britain, Norway, the United States... the choice is huge,” she says. Polyamory Amsbury says she favors expanding the legal definition of marriage to include three or more people, but she doesn't expect to see it anytime soon. "We're lovers, not fighters,'' she said. "We don't want to get people's backs up.'' Marriage Strike Young Scots are now less likely to say “I do” than ever before, with fewer than 30,000 couples a year in Scotland now deciding to tie the knot. Online Sexploytation - Aimed at men too busy, lazy or shy to pull in person, virtual girlfriends offer the fun of a relationship without the hassle. Heterophobia Plans to give legal status to gay and lesbian couples discriminate against heterosexual couples, campaigners have said. Sexuality Men base a woman's sexual attractiveness on her physical characteristics, especially youth. Women, on the other hand, find political and economic prowess sexier in men; youth is relatively unimportant. Mike Aquino - 2 min Internet Dating "Photos are really important because they attract more people to answering your profile." PMS Another risk factor appears to be something that researchers call overthinking, a tendency to dwell on petty slights, to mentally replay testy encounters and to wallow in sad feelings. Studies show that this type of negative thinking is far more common in women than in men, and that it can be a harbinger of clinical depression. Self-Esteem Our "ego" or self-conception might be pictured as a fine but leaking balloon, forever needing others to add air to it with their love and vulnerable to the smallest pin-pricks of neglect. There is something astonishing in the extent to which we can be cheered by the attentions of others and damaged by their disregard. We are capable of finding life worth living because someone has remembered our name or sent us a basket of fruit. We may be sent into despair because a colleague has given us a blank look in a corridor or we have been badly seated at dinner. Alain de Botton - 6 min Feminism The first battle cries of feminism had to do with this amorphous misery of being a so-called "drudge" in the home – being a wife, mother and homemaker would somehow cause a woman to contract the "disease with no name." This disease supposedly represented the unhappiness due to routine housework and a lack of sense of meaningfulness, importance and power because she was not in rush-hour traffic dealing with an impersonal corporate structure. Laura Schlessinger Abolish Heterosexual Marriage Congress can develop for would-be partners, gay and s! traight, a five-year contract, renewable at the end of the contractual period. There are several excellent reasons to abolish marriage. Christopher Ketcham What Women Want If you want to know how women really choose men, don't bother asking a woman.  - Matthew Fitzgerald Joys Of Marriage Marriage is a sham for men. There is no benefit. If you are about to get married, think it over. Don't let your dick do your thinking for you. Don't let your punch-drunk I'm in love euphoria put you on auto-pilot. You will wake up in a hell of a hangover staring at this woman who will control your life. Selfishness Women are very selfish creatures -- they get into relationships for selfish reasons and they leave for selfish reasons. They are constantly looking to feather their nests, and have absolutely no guilt or remorse about using you or any other man to get what they want. Matthew Fitzgerald American Sororities From the mixers to the formals to the homecomings to fraternity parties—there’s frequently a race to get dates from a limited pool of acceptable fraternity guys. And white sororities are so centered on relationships with their ceremonies and rituals and songs to celebrate specific relationship mile­stones.  They had a tradition called boob ranking where pledges had just a limited amount of time to strip off their shirt and bras to examine each other topless so that by the time the clock was up, they were basically lined up in order of chest size in order of the sisters to inspect. Eating disorders are so popular that some houses have puking contests after dinner. At State U., every single one of the 18 sororities had eating-disor­der problems. Good Advice For Women Don't nag, don't complain in front of other people, don't micro-manage. Men, Dr Laura points out, "don't gossip" and their wives shouldn't either. ...  "Treating husbands well hinges on the Golden Rule . . . look at life from his perspective . . . and tell him how much you appreciate how hard he works to support the family instead of just complaining that he's late for dinner again." Stephanie Deutsch The 'Friend' Trap Why do women label certain men as "friends," and what can you do to avoid such a humiliating rejection in the first place? Matthew Fitzgerald - 4 min Orgasms Who gets the most pleasure out of sex--the man or the woman? Cecil replies. Sexual 'Dysfunction'? You might think other men would commiserate with a man whose capacity for sexual response has vanished. Or you might be surprised. One of my acquaintances, for instance, a very wise man who lives on a spectacular piece of real estate in the Rockies west of Denver, replied, "Good for you! You’re free from a tremendous source of trouble!" David Ritchie - 8 min - good read Hidden Agenda A woman with a hidden agenda doesn't have your best interests at heart. Instead of appreciating your love and companionship, she is somewhat of a user, profiting from being with you in another way. Barry Long Gay Marriage How many sham marriages would the U.S. Citizenship and Immigration Service have to sift through once an American man could marry thirty Filipinas? Tim Cavanaugh - 4 min Husband Love A Skip to the front door when he comes home from work to greet him with a welcome kiss. A hot, home-cooked meal waiting for him on the dinner table, and a fresh, full face of make-up and feminine clothing donned just for him. Oh, and sex on tap. Such are the duties of a modern woman for her man according to a new United States bestseller, fittingly entitled Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands. Sarah Howden - 5 min	Sex-Ploytation, UK Proper Care & Feeding Of Husbands, UK Male Multiple Orgasm, UK Taking Sex Differences Seriously, UK
GOOD READ ! The Feminist Con Feminism was good at teaching women how to pump their fists, guzzle water bottles on street corners, ridicule men a la The View, shriek about self-esteem and blame others for their own shortcomings and difficulties. But it did not teach them to "know thyself," which is the primary requisite for happiness. Carol Iannone Sexual 'Dysfunction'? You might think other men would commiserate with a man whose capacity for sexual response has vanished. Or you might be surprised. One of my acquaintances, for instance, a very wise man who lives on a spectacular piece of real estate in the Rockies west of Denver, replied, "Good for you! You’re free from a tremendous source of trouble!" David Ritchie - 8 min Self-Dating Laqueur's most recent book, Solitary Sex: A Cultural History of Masturbation, shares with Making Sex the same startling initial premise: that something we take for granted, something that goes without saying, something that simply seems part of being human has in fact a history, and a fascinating, conflicted, momentous history at that. Stephen Greenblatt - 10 min Women! There's an old adage which goes: if you ask a man what time it is, he'll look at his watch; but if you ask a woman the same question, she'll start telling you all about the pretty Patek Philippe she saw in the jewelry store the other day. Matthew Fitzgerald Why Marry? As a young man full of dangerous steroids, your answer will probably be, "Ah, because her hair is like corn silk under an August moon; her lips are as rubies and her teeth, pearls; and her smile would make a dead man cry." This amounts to, "I'm horny," with elaborations. Fred Reed Lying Women Women are serial liars when it comes to sex. Not only do they "forget" about certain partners, but they also add years to the age at which they lost their virginity, and refuse to tell the truth about masturbating or using p0rnography. Mark Henderson Shyness At the core of our existence as human beings lies a powerful drive to be with other people. There is much evidence that in the absence of human contact people fall apart physically and mentally; they experience more sickness, stress and suicide than well-connected individuals. For all too many people, however, shyness is the primary barrier to that basic need. Bernardo Carducci - 10 min Women! Men are PC'ed to death. The consequences of almost 50 years of ardent feminism have been devastating: a society in bewilderment about gender roles, the rise of a class of ball-busting bitches whose battle cry is, "We don't need men," trumped-up charges of "date rape" and "sexual harassment," angry women blaming men for all their problems -- in short, an overall erosion of male confidence. Matthew Fitzgerald Marriage Were I to offer thoughts on marriage to young American men today, in these the declining years of a once-great civilization, my advice would be as follows: Don't do it. Or, if you do, do it in another country. In America marriage is a grievous error. Fred Reed Relationship Perils What couple doesn't experience stress, especially if they have children? Now a woman can incarcerate her husband simply by dialling 911 in a heated moment. The policy makes love and marriage a perilous enterprise. It accustoms people to the interference of police in their personal lives, the hallmark of dictatorship. Henry Makow Marriage Don't get married. Don't do it. Come the divorce, as come it probably will, the courts will systematically shear you of your children, your house, and huge amounts of your income for twenty years. Don't do it. It isn't worth it. Nothing is. Fred Reed Feminist Opposition To Marriage Sheila Cronan, a member of The Redstockings, in her 1970 essay "Marriage," declared: "It became increasingly clear to us that the institution of marriage `protects' women in the same way that the institution of slavery was said to `protect' blacks--that is, that the word `protection' in this case is simply a euphemism for oppression,"15 and proclaimed that "marriage is a form of slavery."16 She concluded: "Since marriage constitutes slavery for women, it is clear that the Women's Movement must concentrate on attacking this institution. Freedom for women cannot be won without the abolition of marriage." Patrick Fagan, Robert Rector and Lauren Noyes - 20 min