25/02/04

A Real Woman Wants A Real Man

Matthew Fitzgerald

Askmen

Men are PC'ed to death. The consequences of almost 50 years of ardent feminism have been devastating: a society in bewilderment about gender roles, the rise of a class of ball-busting bitches whose battle cry is, "We don't need men," trumped-up charges of "date rape" and "sexual harassment," angry women blaming men for all their problems -- in short, an overall erosion of male confidence. As society becomes more and more feminized, as more and more young men are being raised by single mothers who don't have a clue about the male sex drive, but who teach their sons to surrender their natural masculinity and pander to women, today's man is forced to apologize for -- and feel shame about -- his inherent male sexuality.

This abrogation of sexual confidence has resulted in a world full of wusses and doormats, men who cater to women and willingly hand over all their male power in exchange for a few crumbs of approval or sexual "favors."

The modern man walks around on eggshells, afraid of saying the "wrong thing," scared of showing his natural sexual interest to a woman, scared of being scorned, humiliated, or even fired -- scared of his own true self.

All of this flies in the face of nature. For years now, men have been forced to bend over backwards to please women, but pandering to a self-serving social movement can't really reverse five billion years of human evolution.

Clearly this essential point is lost on the female gender because women just don't have a clue what it is to be truly sexual -- a woman's sex drive can't even begin to compare with a man's. Yet modern feminism still blindly strives to feminize men into submissive she-males.

Nature intended men to be strong, assertive, bold, sexual -- this is why testosterone surges through their bloodstreams. This is a man's right -- his heritage -- as a member of the male gender.

And the truth is, despite what women say and how much they protest, they want a man who acts like a man. Scratch the surface and you'll find that deep down they don't really want a man to act like a woman any more than a guy wants a chick to be masculine.

So instead of letting women snip pruning shears at their crotches, it's time for men to stop apologizing for being male, to celebrate their inherently sexual natures, and to reclaim their sexual confidence.

Just what is sexual confidence? First, it's important to understand what it's not.

Men who are not sexually confident: ... 

Seek approval from women 
Cater or pander to women 
Are predictable and boring 
Call women every day or worse, many times a day (clingy, needy) 
Try to buy their time and attention with meals, gifts, etc. 
Are nervous, insecure or overly nice around women 
Act like women's friends instead of their lovers 
Are available at the drop of a hat 
Tolerate without protest rude behavior, cancelled dates, etc. 
Go out of their way to please women in the hope of getting laid 
Let women control the relationship 
Are afraid that if they do "something wrong," she'll leave 
Grovel, beg, or are desperate for sex 
Obsess about and over-analyze everything women say and do 
Feel shameful or guilty about their natural sexuality 
Let women manipulate them or treat them like "walking wallets" 
Are lousy lovers

The direct opposite of all these is sexual confidence. To get an insight into what sexual confidence is, just watch any "bad boy" in action -- one of those obnoxious, selfish, abusive jerks that women swear they hate, yet flock to like ants discovering a candy factory.

Why are women attracted to these guys? Because females think with their emotions, not with logic -- and Bad Boys are sexually exciting.

And just what determines sexual confidence? 

Sexually confident men: ... 

Are challenges, not feet-kissing doormats 
Don't make excuses for who they are -- they exude sexuality and they're comfortable with their natural masculinity 
Assume that they're "the catch," not the woman 
Are unpredictable, untamed and can't be tied down 
Aren't afraid of being who they are 
Have no interest in being PC, morphing their true selves to gain female approval, or being overly nice 
Don't have to trade money or gifts for sex (a.k.a. "dating") 
Always control the relationship 
Never tolerate any female BS 
Radiate sexually-charged body language 
Flirt easily and well 
Are natural leaders, not followers 
Unabashedly look at women's bodies 
Don't care if they score with a particular woman, because they know that there are many others waiting in line. They want sex, but they don't need it -- they aren't desperate and groveling for it 
Are constantly unavailable 
Never apologize for who they are 
Act like men around women, not wusses. 

In other words, sexually confident men aren't afraid to be themselves or to exert their natural sexuality -- and don't really care what society thinks of them. Unlike bad boys, sexually confident men are not abusive toward women -- in fact, they love the company of women and treat them very well. And women can't keep their hands off them.

The good news is, a man doesn't have to be built like Arnold Schwarzenegger or look like Brad Pitt to be sexually confident and attract women. But he does have to tap into his natural masculinity and let it shine out for the female population to see.

When a man becomes confident and secure about his sexuality, he immediately asserts his independence and individuality. He becomes more selective. His self-image has been enhanced and he is comfortable being who he is instead of constantly changing his behavior to fit into society's current format.

Women can look into his eyes and read his body language and instantly know that he's a good lover. Instead of desperately seeking the approval of women and chasing after them like a puppy dog, he is now the "desired one," and women pursue him because he has transformed himself from a doormat into a challenge.

As the old saying goes, "Do what you've always done and you'll keep getting what you've always gotten." If you want to be sexually confident, all you have to do is be the man nature intended you to be.

Matthew Fitzgerald is the author of Sex-Ploytation. He has appeared on radio shows from coast-to-coast in the United States and in Canada, and has been featured on the Montel show and The Other Half.